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ON MATCHING AND NISHEKAM
Marriage with a good woman is a harbour in the tempest of life; with a bad woman, it is a tempest in the harbour.
— J.P. Senn
Hanging and wiving go by destiny.
— Shakespeare
Marriage is a great civilizer of the world.
— Robert Hall
Marriage is popular because it provides maximum of enjoyment with maximum of opportunity.
— G.B. Shaw
Fate is inevitable. What is written on your fore-head on the 6th day of your birth by God can’t be erased except with God’s permission. If one had done good works in the past lives and not received curses, one will enjoy all happiness in married life. Otherwise one will not get happiness in the present married life. This is the law of Karma.
One cannot change it by wearing stones or changing names and houses. Chastity of a woman and all family members with sincere daily prayers cures a thousand doshas and evils in the horoscope and give health, happiness, wealth, prosperity, progeny and long life. Information’s gathered from hundreds books, talks with others and their experiences form the basis of this article, for their guidance. Only God can reveal the future.
The Forbidden Fruit: Entering from childhood to adolescence, the boy and the girl pick up by observation, sight, hearsay, family background and guidance from elders and parents about love and sex. With the passage of time, they become matured and will long to taste and enjoy the forbidden fruit. In early times, one must have committed out of ignorance, pleasure or money singular sex. One of the most pleasurable and enjoyable moment in life is the enjoyment in sex. But that happiness is denied to many due to many causes, and those who do not get satisfaction in sex seek pleasure outside the marriage privately, get more wives, go to prostitutes, sex bars, dancing bars and try to get good looking girls from schools, colleges, working places, bus stands etc. offering pleasure and money.
Without fear of conception, they fall easy prey to the touts. Still unsatisfied, many turn to sodomy, homosexuality, masturbation and various other methods to get enjoyment. Thus vice is spreading all over the world.
The Matching Factor : The matching factor and fixing Muhurthas for marriage and nisheka must be left to the astrologer though studies and interpretations differ based on the texts they use. Even Rama and Sita matching failed. Dina kuta is for finding the longevity and health of the couple. Some say that Dina Kuta may be ignored if either boy or girl is born in the stars of Mrigasira, Makha, Swati and Anuradha.
Gana Kuta is for happiness and psychological compatibility. Mahen- dra Kuta is for prosperity of children.
Yoni Kuta is for physical attraction between the couple. This kuta is very important. An example of Bharani husband Aries rashi with wife Hasta in Virgo rashi. Their Moon are in 6/8 positions and Moon lords are enemies. Yet they lead a very happy married life because of Yoni agreeability. Another example, wife in Punarvasu, Gemini Rashi, Cat Yoni, and husband Hasta, Kanya rashi, buffalo Yoni; rashi lords are same, yoni kuta is judged as good, but she left him because of the excessive sex demand of the husband.
Rashi kuta for general prosperity of the family, Rasiya- dhipathi kuta for increase of children, Vasya kuta for mutual love, Rajju kuta for longevity of the husband, stree dheergham for knowing financial position after marriage, Vedhai poruthem, for domestic felicity, Nadi kuta for the health of couple and children.
POSITIONING OF RASHIS
If the rasi of the boy happens to be in the second from that of the girl and the rashi of the girl happens to be in the 12th from the boy, evil results will follow. But if the rashi of the boy falls in the 12th from the girls of the rashi of the girl is in the 2nd from boy, it gives longevity to the couple.
If the rashi of the boy is in the 3rd from the girl, there will be misery and sorrow. But if the rashi of the girl is in the 3rd from the boy’s, there will be happiness. If the boy’s rashi falls in the 4th from the girl, there will be great poverty, but if the rasi of the girl is in the 4th from the boy’s, there will be great wealth.
If the boy’s rashi falls in the 5th from the girl’s, widowhood or unhappiness may result, if the girls rasi falls in the 5th from the boy’s, there will be enjoyment and prosperity. If the rashi of the boy and girl are in the 7th house mutually, except where rashi lords are enemies of badakas, there will be health, agreement and happiness.
The result will be same if their Rashis are one and the stars different. If the boy’s rashi is in the 6th from the girl’s, there will be loss of children if the girl’s rashi is in the 6th from the boy’s, then the progeny will prosper. Planets in positions of 6/8, 2/12 and 5/9 are bad. But if the lords of the rashis are intimate friends, the doshas will vanish. For Sun, Mars and Jupiter are intimate friends to one-another. Moon is the intimate friend of Sun.
Mercury is the intimate friends of Venus and Saturn. Venus is the intimate friend of Mercury. Venus and Saturn are bitter enemies of Sun. Mars has bitter enmity with Mercury. Mercury and Venus are bitter enemies of Jupiter. Mars, Sun and Moon have bitter relationship with Saturn. Planets must be strong to give good results.
INFLUENCE OF PLANETS
Seventh house controls the marital happiness or conjugal bliss. Malefic here destroys happiness. Sin in 7 is bad, Moon in 7 is good. Venus in 7 is good. Saturn in 7 gives quarrels and disputes. Rahu in 7th gives sick and ill tempered wife. Ketu in 7 gives very unhappy married life.
If Moon and Venus are placed in Mars signs or if Moon and Mars are placed in Venus signs, the native becomes sexually perverted and unchaste. 4th house rules over chastity of a woman. Third house rules over the mind.
If there is conjunction of Mars and Venus there or in the 7th house (sexual desire) one becomes sexually perverted and will seek pleasures outside marriage. Benefices in the 4th and 7th promises a happy married life, whereas malefic there indicate a troublesome married life, divorce, separation etc.
Mars in the 7th or 8th is adverse for female. It can mar conjugal bliss, lifespan of the husband and status. In 8th it can cause the death of the husband. Remedy is that in the 7th of the husband there should be an equal malefic.
In the male horoscope, 7th denotes wife and conjugal life. For him the 8th house is not connected with the happiness of marriage or life span of the wife. But 8th for the man brings problems connected with death. Health.
Sickness and accidents. Marriage with a boy or girl born in the 3rd star, 5th star and 7th star, 88th pada and 108th pada from the birth Moon must be avoided.
If Lagna. Sun and Moon of the boy and girl are in positive signs or in negative signs, there will be compatibility. If one is in positive sign and the other is in negative sign, there will be sign conflict. Positive signs are Aries, Gemini, Leo, Libra, Sagittarius and Aquarius. Negative sign are Taurus, Cancer, Virgo, Scorpio, Capricorn and Pisces.
THE MOMENT OF UNION
To beget good children and lead a happy conjugal life, the moment of sexual union is important. In most cases impregnation follows very shortly after coitus.
Though opinions differ, stars like Rohini, Mrigasira, Purvaphalguni, Purvashada, Purvabhadra, Aridra, Punarvasu, Pushya, Hasta, Chittara, Swati, Visaka, Anuradha, Sravana, Dhanista, Satabista, Uttaraphalguni, Uttarashada and Uttarabhadra and auspicious for sexual union, but one must select the star with tarabala only. Lunar tithes like the 2nd, 7th, 12th, 5th, 10th 3rd and 13th are favorable for coitus.
A good yoga must be selected. Thursday, Friday, Wednesday and Monday are auspicious.
The Llagna must be a favorable one unoccupied by any planet as any planet occupying there will obstruct the free flow of energy. All tithes except the 4th, 8th, 9th, 14th, full Moon and New Moon are good. Conception after menses on the 5th night produces a girl, on the 6th night a son, founder of a family, on the 7th night a barren female, on the 8the night a son, on the 9th night a beautiful female, on the 10th night a lord, on the 11th night a deformed female, on the 12th night a fortunate son, on the 13th night a sinful girl, on the 14th night a virtuous son, on the 15th night a fortunate female and on the 16th night a fortunate son. Birth star 10th star and 9th star from natal Moon must be avoided for coitus.
Taurus, Gemini, Cancer, Virgo, Leo, Libra and Pisces are good sings. It is said that conception can be avoided if coitus is done in the stars of Pushyani, Anuradha, Uttarabhadra, Aslesha, Jesta and Revati.
It is said that woman conceives on a day similar to her birth tithi.
If such a day of the month coincides with the 6th, 8th, 10th, 12th, 14th or 16th night after menses, it can give a male child, otherwise a girl if they are destined to have children.
Sexual act on a Thursday in Jupiter hora can give children, and done when Sun, Jupiter and Moon are in Masculine signs and Navamsas can result in the birth of a son.
Destiny cannot materialize without the medium of free will just as energy cannot work without matter. What one sees is flashed on to the mind.
If at the first sight of the girl and look into her eyes and talks, the mind gets exhilarated, and attracted, that is the best selection according to some. But as per the Bible, Proverbs 19-14, a prudent wife is from the God.
 K. P. Roy
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